When I sit back and reflect on the beautiful young lady that I have watched and nurtured from a tiny baby into whom she is today I am completely in awe of her kind heart, her glorious spirit and her unshakeable enthusiasm for life. Quite how the past 7 years have flown by at such an alarming speed escapes me.
Tomorrow is International Women’s Day and this has got me thinking about what is really important for me to teach and impart upon my daughter as she grows into a young lady.
I have mentioned in previous posts about the values that we as parents encourage. I am sure most families share in this. We all want our children to be happy little souls, who are kind and considerate to others. This goes without saying. But what does it really mean to be a young lady growing up now?
From my observations, the pressures on young women are immense. We are told that we must ‘have it all’. That being a career, a family, hobbies & interests, a perfect figure, the wardrobe of a celebrity… the list goes on. We are constantly barraged with images of those in the public eye, who seemingly do ‘have it all’, without having a true impression of what goes on behind the scenes. Our daughters, and we as grown women are pressured at every corner, to tick every box. And has this huge shift in the social standing and expectations placed on women been met with an equality in society? Well, no, is the simple answer.
After I had Letoya & Ethan, my body hang-ups were exacerbated by the images of those that had bounced back. Trying to manage the housework whilst caring for a newborn baby, so those that visit, at least, are met with the impression that you are ‘managing’. Returning to work, you are met with the pressure to be a working mum that performs at work, who supports her family, whilst still being an attentive parent that is in touch with everything in their little one’s world.
The truth is, we can manage it all. Women are amazing. We can and do, doing this without question and with love. The pressures on how we should look and what we should have are like leaves in the wind, they blow away seemingly insignificantly.
What worries me, is the huge divide between women. We need to be empowering each other. Supporting all women to grow and better themselves, regardless of race, background colour or creed. Having a daughter of mixed heritage, it is impossible to escape the fact that she has and will face discrimination. I want her to know she is perfect as she is and that everyone is different and it is our differences that make us unique and beautiful
I want my daughter to grow, knowing that she is an amazing creature, capable of doing and achieving anything. The world is a huge place with more opportunities than can be imagined. I want to support her, and for her to be supported by other women. We need to encourage and engage in growing a culture that enables and empowers women. We need strong role models, showing our daughters what they can do if they set their minds to it.
Lets set the bar high. Lets work together to spread strong moral values. Lets be the example of what it means to be an empowered woman.
We are amazing, we just need to believe it.